Self-esteem is how you think about yourself, how much you appreciate yourself, how you feel about the negative and positive evaluation of yourself, and of course, what you think of yourself. 

Psychologically, self-esteem is your overall sense of value or personal worth. You can either have healthy self-esteem or low self-esteem, which can eventually influence your life, mental health, and motivation.

Factors that influence self-esteem

  • Personality
  • Age
  • Genetics
  • Health ( Serious illness and Physical disabilities)
  • People’s reaction to you
  • Your thoughts
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Physical abilities
  • Social-economic dignity
  • Your life experiences. Practically, your life experience plays a major role in the development of your self-esteem, the reason being that during your early years as a child your self-esteem is influenced by your parents due to their parenting styles which can be abusive or comforting.
  •  Academic achievement. Excellent or poor academic performance can influence your self-esteem.

Types of Self-Esteem

There are two major types of self-esteem; 

Healthy Self-Esteem

When you have healthy self-esteem, you will start trusting in your capacity to solve difficult problems, you will stop dwelling in the past, rather you will intensely live in present and plan your future. You will be confident in yourself and always have a positive outlook on life. Possessing healthy self-esteem will enable you to collaborate with others, resist manipulation, being principles and values, trusting your judgement and considering yourself being equal in dignity with others, ensuring that you maintain a healthy relationship with others and motivating you to accomplish your goals. 

Low Self-Esteem

Having low self-esteem can negatively impact your life by rendering you vulnerable to defeat, discredit, embarrassment, shame, suicidal thoughts, Mental health disorders such as depression and anxiety.  Your level of perfectionism is at maximum and once it is not achieved, you will become frustrated. You are always feeling guilty and dwelling on your past mistakes, always prone to self-criticism, intense fear, worry, inferiority complex, and Self-doubt.  You will have difficulty in setting boundaries and maintaining a healthy relationship with others and yourself.

Importance of Self- esteem 

Here are the reasons why self-esteem is important to you;

  • Self-esteem influences your motivation in understanding your potentials.
  • Self-esteem impacts your life positively in maintaining a healthy relationship with others.

How to Boost your self-esteem

Interestingly, there are some steps to enable you to improve your self-esteem.

1. Be Positive about yourself

Always say kind and supportive words to yourself. Always see yourself as the best you can ever be and be the best friend to yourself.

2. Exercise

Engage yourself in a daily workout routine. It enables your body to release an endorphin which is the feel-good hormones. Exercise also helps to boost your confidence.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others.

You need to make an effort in accepting who you are. Always bear in mind that every human is unique and they all have their differences. Comparing yourself to others will deprive you of focusing on your goals and achievements and values to society. 

4. Stop dwelling in the past

You need to forget about the past, let your concentration be on the present and the future. Resist the pains and disappointment. Practice self-compassion on yourself and move on. 

5. Quit being a Perfectionist

Nobody is perfect. Mistakes are inevitable. Learn to acknowledge your accomplishment and mistakes and grow positively from them because mistakes are apprenticeship to your achievements. 

6. Always Challenge Negative thoughts

Be stunning to yourself in saying “stop” to every inner critic.   

7. Spend more time with supportive people

You need to surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself and avoid spending time with destructive people that will ignite your negative thoughts. 

8. Focus on what makes you Happy

Spending time doing things that makes you happy, will enable you to think positively in appreciating your special qualities daily. 

9. Stand on Being Assertive 

You need to be boldly self-assured in expressing your needs, beliefs, opinions, wants, and feelings to others directly and honestly without being aggressive.   

10. Be a friend

When you are considerate and helpful towards people, it will make you feel great about yourself and will positively increase your mood. You need to give back by helping others.

In conclusion, the key to great achievement in life is healthy self-esteem. Always affirm your values and worth.


  1. FabZinny says:

    Thank you for this. Very uplifting

  2. Elizabeth says:

    Nice one

  3. Deeyah Legborsi says:

    This is worth reading!
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful piece.

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